fragile_bloom
It's quite interesting you mention queen Elizabeth, i read about her a lot in the past. About her dresses - i think you should just look at her portraits. Compairing her outfits i don't know why Youko complains at all!!!

I'd like to know how Elizabeth was able to move.
But if i remember correctly she didn't just dressed because that was the royal code of behavior - she LOVED to furnish herself with all those robes, corsets and jewelry. Just like her father - Henry the 8-th, he was covered by jewels(check his portraits) and LOVED it. I think it goes with the family!
About her personal life - everything is in the air. She was never married that's true - she claimed she's married to England. But the real reason? Who knows...Some historians claim that she was afraid of her husband bad influence, some say she had some serious phisical shortcomings and was trying to hide it....whatever... She had favorites at court, like count of Essex (whom she executed afterwards) but there's no proof that she had any intimate relationships with anyone.
Maybe she was simply afraid of intimacy? Some hidden complexes?
So far officially she's considered a "virgin queen".
On the other side - there was strong and great female ruler you might take notice of. Catherine the Second - Russian empress, also known as Catherine the Great. She was a wise, famous and long-lived ruler. And she wasn't nearly as conservative as Elizabeth.

Her love life is still the origin of inspiration for many historical novels. But i digress...
Look it's really interesting how the author avoids all those sexual questions instead focusing her work around no less interesting matters. So it's kinda weird to sit here and speculate about the romance in the world of twelve kingdoms, when it's only hinted here and there.
But it's unavoidably strange for me that one of the most powerfull driving sources in our world since the ancient times - lust and sex - completely missing here. You're right, it always played extremely important role at royal courts throughout the world.
Returning to "unroyal" Youko's behavior...I also think that there should be boundaries and official codes for the royal court. But...i don't know...
Look, in anime, at least where it stoped, there wasn't exactly such problem. Yes, Youko cancels the prostration by her first inaugural rescript. And i applauded her for that. But this action had a meaning, which Youko explained in that magnificent speech before her court.
Now, in this last novel...it appears that during the year the court etiquette gone down the tubes, like, totally.
Frankly speaking, i didn't saw it coming from the prevoius events. Cancelling prostration isn't the same as making everyone in the palace running around, calling the empress by her name and slapping her on the shoulder. Since when Youko also learned to make tea and serve it to her general? I don't know, maybe i missed something, or maybe i should've given some hints earlier about this, maybe something about this process. It simply came from nowhere for me.
Yes, she's "democratic" but there's a limit to everything. Being kind and generous and respectful to other people even if they are your sevants has it's own limits. Because then the other problems may start. If you're everybody's buddy instead of being the boss, some of your subordinates may not take you seriously. Besides, it's always higly problematic, making this switch between the friendly talk to giving an order.
Look, i worked in a big organization once. And i always wondered why all the people promoted to the senior positions suddenly changed their attitude from "friendly buddies" to "high-nosed bosses".
At first i considered this a simple snobism of someone who's got promoted and "forgot" his roots. But now, some years after, i understood why they changed their behavior. People around didn't take them seriously at first and took the orders from the former friend with "ok, sure, buddy, whatever you say" attitude. That's the human nature. So they had to build this distance to be taken seriously and to acomplish the tasks. Sad, but true.
She really seems a bit too carefree. But it may be explained by her unexperience and young age, of course. It took me years to understand that you can't be buddy-friends with you subordinates. It extremely rarely works. You may stay friends with them only within certain boundaries, when they are smart enough to understand that no matter what - you're the boss and you give orders.
Souryou with all his easy-going attitude also restricted the circle of his buddy-friends - only 3 or 4 of them were allowed to treat him like this. All the other officials were not given such luxury. Besides he was more experienced than Youko and he already knew how to pull the strings behind his officials back.
Youko wears her heart on her sleeve and can be hurt easily. I don't think she should return to those drugging behind hems and kowtowing, but she has to find the right balance between not offending the older but capable officials and modernisation of her court, finding and introducing more supporters of her reign.
Learning how to stay friendly and accessible to her subordinates but also never letting them forget who's the boss here.
I think she starts to understand things towards the end of the novel if i understand correctly from your discription.
Tahki
Keiki could help her alter her appearece (red hair was a bit unusual in the Kingdom) , like what the former Ko-Rin did.
Ehr...What do you mean? Youko's hair was the problem only when she was pursuied as she's easily recognisable. So she had to dye it. In the world of twelve kingdoms any hair and eye color are possible. And what's Kourin has to do with this? I don't understand what's Youko's hair color has to do with her problems at the court at all?
